Where feminism went wrong
For all the ladies out there, I'd like to share some things I learned from a German woman, while recently studying in Rome. Sorry guys, I don't mean to exclude you, but some things just need to be said to certain people. Don't worry; this is in total defense of you. I'm not one who would normally be caught discussing women's issues; I usually find the topic to be uninteresting and the result of ideas that are slanted and unfair to men.
The Women's Rights Movement in the ‘60s was a good idea in theory, but it certainly was not executed correctly. There are two types of feminism which emerged in the 60's: Difference or standpoint feminism, and the all too familiar liberal feminism. Difference feminism recognizes that there are essential biological differences between men and women. Believers in it see women as the peace makers and the mediators.
It is the liberal feminists who have gotten feminism wrong. While feminism should be the celebration of the role that women were meant to play, liberal feminists believe that there are no differences between men and women and that women can do anything that men can do equally as well, if not better. Equal rights should be strived for, but in many circumstances, things go too far and what follows is the reversing of roles and discriminating against the other party.
Back before the Women's Rights Movement, chivalry was still alive. Men opened the door for ladies, stood up when they entered or left a room, and ceased to use foul language in front of them. Many women today find themselves asking why guys don't act this way anymore. What happened to chivalry? Well, guess what ladies, we killed it. That's right, we absolutely are the cause of the death of chivalry. When a man goes out of his way to act chivalrous for a woman, he is expressing his love and respect for her as a whole. By trying to be like men, and therefore rejecting his chivalrous charities, we have rejected men's love. This must be a major blow to the good heart in such men.
By aspiring for equal rights and equal treatment by men, women have forced themselves to become like men. We lost all sense of class and respectability through meaningless, premarital sex. Then, when we get pregnant by some stranger, and he ditches (surprise, surprise), we say that we don't need a man to raise our children; we can do it on our own. These fatherless children are being brought up in a world of poverty, because face it, mom can't support her child all by herself as well she could with a man, no matter how much she tells herself she can. Children growing up in this situation aren't getting the male attention that they so desperately need, so they lash out and resort to crime. I'm generalizing, of course; not every situation ends up this way, but many do. This is where feminism went wrong.
The truth is, men and women are different. Shocker, I know, but many people choose to ignore this. Men and women have different roles in society and I'm not saying that women can't be in the workforce or that there is no woman in the world strong enough to be in the military. However, not only are men and woman biologically different, but our souls are actually different.
Women are the nurtures and men are the bread winners. It's true. Often times, if you find a situation where the roles happen to be reversed-both the man and the woman feel unfulfilled. If a woman is working all the time, she can feel like she's not doing her duty as a woman to nurture and raise her children. If the man is the one to stay home and take care of the children, he can feel guilty in that he's not contributing any material goods for the family. It's just the way of the world.
Now, I will outline briefly the way feminism should have gone. It was fine to strive for equal rights and equal opportunity, but women should not have tried to become men. What does that say about women when they feel that the only way they can be heard is to become like men? Standards should not be lowered for women just so that there can be "diversity" in the workplace. Women should show more self-respect. They should find beauty in their role in society.
Also, women need to recognize that it is when men and women work together that success can be accomplished. There are qualities that men have and women don't,\ and qualities that women have and men don't. When we work together, we have nothing but strengths. For example, you'll find that men are much more detail oriented. They can focus on one small detail for their entire lives and fail to see the whole picture. The opposite is true for women, usually. Women are more likely to see the whole picture, but have trouble focusing on details. So why, you ask, do we see more female success in math and science than men now that women have been given the chance to join such fields? Since the feminist movement, teaching styles have switched to be better suited to girls, leaving the boys behind helpless to a point where they just don't care about learning anymore.
Respect needs to be present by both parties and for both parties; that much is obvious. Feminists today seem to show no respect not just for men, but none for themselves. Their constant fight to be more and more like men, therefore making men more and more like women, just shows how little respect they have for their own role in society. The true feminist understands the difference between men and women and glorifies in it.
So, women, I guess what I'm trying to say is, stop worrying so much about trying to become like a man and go out and be the best woman you can be. Show some class and self-respect and you'll receive respect in return.
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